You may know what to do, but may defeat yourself by doing it in a way that doesn’t work. Gentleness and diplomacy can insure that your actions are effective. You need to change or modify your approach to things, and that can seem scary and difficult. If the old ways don’t seem to be working you can be assured that now’s the time to get underneath your problems and address their root causes. A softer and less forceful approach is probably what’s going to work the best.